Do you ever wonder about the impact you make on others — as a musician and as a person? At a time when we’re not performing in shared spaces, we may feel as though we’re not making much impact at all.
One thing all this sheltering in place has done is make crystal clear to me just how much we affect one another. And how important sharing music, ideas, and feedback with each other actually is. The influence each of us has is far greater than we know.
Role modeling, anyone?
Think about the colleagues, friends, and teachers who’ve shaped how you experience the world — the people who’ve encouraged and dared you to go further.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve found many role models over the years. Including people you never met but whose recordings, books, and lectures were beacons for you on your path.
It’s like that saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” You find the perfect book to help me through a challenge, or the “teacher” shows up in the form of a film or an amazing conversation.
The right catalyst can set off a series of actions that lead to personal, artistic, and spiritual growth. That initial spark can lead you to others who help change the way you see yourself and the world. And that, in turn, changes the choices you make and the future you create for yourself.
All too often, though, the people who’ve made a real impact on us go unacknowledged. And likewise we, too, never know the extent of the influence we’ve had. It’s a “don’t ask, don’t tell” kind of thing in our culture. Even though we are all inspired by — and learning from — each other.
So this is a bit of a love note to my clients.
Full disclosure: I love my work because I love my clients. Through the coaching process I get to know extraordinary individuals — their goals, values, and biggest challenges. Together we map out a courageous path forward. And I get to witness each of their hero’s journeys unfold. I get to see the birth of the new found confidence that comes when you step outside your comfort zone to grow as an artist.
A couple of weeks ago a client sent me a wonderful note. She was updating me on what had been going on since completing our work together in my Beyond Talent Power Group program. And it reminded me once again of how grateful I am to do this work.
Meet Bonnie Cochran — flutist, composer, and music educator. She wrote . . .
“Thank you for your help over the last year. I was definitely stuck when I came to you. And since finishing the Power Group program last month I’ve been laser-focused: last week I had 2 virtual concerts and a video recording session of a difficult piece for the National Flute Association’s virtual convention.
I really appreciate all of the challenges you put before me. I appreciate how freely you offered advice, constructive criticism and praise. Your patient prodding to get to the deeper motivations behind my ‘whys’ helped me to see myself and what I do in a new way. That and understanding what action we want different promo materials to incite was huge for me. I now have a much clearer sense of how to present myself.”
Thank YOU, Bonnie, it was a pleasure working with you and seeing you grow into the next chapter of your career!
And thank you to all my clients — it’s an honor and a privilege to work with such an amazing set of musicians — who challenge and inspire me week after week. And who impact hundreds of lives through their music and their role modeling.
We each have so much and so many to be grateful for. So I hope this week you’ll reach out to three people and tell them how they’ve inspired you and helped you get to where you are today.
Then, please share who you reached out to and why in our Free MusiciansMakingIt Facebook group and join us in our weekly FB Lives on Tuesdays at 12 noon ET — we’d love to have you!
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