Too many musicians have been sidelined during quarantine. Not by the virus, but by self-doubt and discouragement exacerbated by their own negative thinking. Maybe you, too, are dealing with negative self-talk? If so . . . This one’s for you.
Negative self-talk is the internal tape loop that plays your top 5 self-defeating messages. For me, these often include favorites such as, “Who do you think you are!” and “Give this up before you really make an ass of yourself!” or simply the poisonous, “You’re incompetent!”
Last week I was talking with my friend, the terrific hypnotherapist Silke Herwald, and I told her how my negative self-talk had gotten ramped up lately, now that I’m nearing the end of a big project. I wondered if she had any suggestions for me.
Instead of recommendations she had something better—a series of questions. Try these on yourself.
Think over the typical negative self-talk messages that have plagued you, and see what your answers to these questions reveals:
- Whose voice does your negative self-talk remind you of?
- Where does the voice seem to be coming from? (Inside or outside your body and where is it specifically?)
- What happens when you lower the volume?
- What happens when you push the voice further away from you?
My negative self-talk, it turns out, seems like it’s placed about 12 inches past my left shoulder. And it doesn’t help to turn the volume down on it, since it’s often speaking to me sotto voce. But when I turn the volume up, I was surprised because then I can really hear how outrageously false the statements are—and they make me laugh. Which is good because . . .
Your Resistance can’t dig its hooks into you if you’re laughing at it.
And once I had that little bit of distance from my self-talk, once I could feel separate from it, I was able to (in my imagination), push the voice further away and kind of flick it off.
That gave me moment’s freedom from it so I could return to my work—at least for a while.
Don’t get me wrong. I know all too well that we can’t get rid of negative self-talk permanently—no one can. But we absolutely can learn how to manage it better in the moment.
That’s why I LOVED Silke’s questions. Because they allowed me to prove to myself that I didn’t have to be a victim to my own self-talk.
Answering these questions taught me that I wasn’t powerless—that I could change my negative self-talk and get some distance from it so that I could choose how I wanted to move forward.
Collecting strategies like these so I can teach more musicians how to get more of their best work out into the world—that’s my jam.
The thing is, most musicians need more support than a few quick strategies can provide. Especially during Covid, many musicians have gotten off track in their creative projects and the isolation and feeling disconnected has taken its toll.
Here’s what I’ve learned: to make real career change, people need a plan, support, and accountability.
If you’re feeling stalled and are interested in getting expert coaching so you can get on track and gain momentum, this may be just the thing.
I have a few remaining spots open in one of my Beyond Talent Power Groups that starts next month and I’d hate for you to miss out on something that could make your 2021 a turnaround year.
What’s a Power Group?
It’s you joining me and three fellow musicians in a dynamic forward-leaning six-month small group coaching program so you can get past your biggest challenges.
We will meet online on Zoom every other week for group coaching sessions twelve times over the course of six months. During each session, you will have 30 minutes of laser-focused coaching with me where we’ll work through the next action items on your plate and trouble shoot whatever might be a sticking point.
The added advantage you’ll gain is that you’ll be doing this in the context of a small group. So you’ll get to listen, watch, and learn as your group mates also problem solve and advance their careers. The group energy and support is what compounds the learning and energizes the progress of Power Group members.
“I recommend working with Angela to anyone who wants to improve the skills that are required in order to exist in this world as a musician. The tools that she’s taught me will stick with me for the rest of my life.”
— Esin Gunduz, composer/vocalist
The essentials: Beyond Talent Power Group (small group coaching)
- 12 small group coaching sessions on Zoom over the course of our empowered six months together.
- Twice monthly additional ‘office hour’ sessions for copy-editing feedback on your promo materials.
- Simple email support from me between sessions. Got a quick question? I’ve got you covered.
- Unparalleled support from me and your fellow Beyond Talent Power Group mates.
- A personalized roadmap and strategies designed to boost your career and your artistry.
What to expect from me
I teach clients how to level up their promo materials, their networking, the productivity, and their mindset so they can get more of their best work out into the world.
I offer clients a system and a set of tools that takes the guesswork out of advancing their careers . . .
and together we custom-tailor a roadmap to reach their specific goals.
What’s needed from you
The Beyond Talent Power Group requires a commitment from you. Expect to spend a minimum of 10 hours each week on your personal career roadmap work.
The investment for the 2021 Power Group program is $350 per month with a 6 month commitment and we have just a few remaining openings starting in April.
Ready to say “YES”? Great—to make sure you’re a fit for the program, let’s schedule a quick call HERE.
Dream Big, Plan Smart, Live Well